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]]>Television viewing options are often the center of intra-family squabbles. Who gets the remote, what does the family watch, and the list goes on. Soccer in many ways can serve to quell these arguments. It is the ultimate team sport and can bring a group of viewers together like nothing else on the hundreds of channels that cable TV provides.
So why, you ask, should we allow our children to spend hours watching 22 people chase a ball all over a grassy field? Here are just a few reasons:
1. The teams work towards a common goal – How many times have you heard someone on a little league team be accused of being a ball hog? Watch the professionals show you how to work the ball around as one. If you need a prime example, just go enjoy a Barcelona match. The team resembles a pinball machine as the ball literally bounces around each player as they progress towards the opponent’s goal. When there is a goal the whole team usually celebrates in one grand heap, because they each played an important role in the set up. Working together is something your child should learn from a young age.
2. Soccer Inspires Passion – There is no greater celebration than when a team scores a dramatic game winning goal. As such, there is no greater frustration than when a player collapses in vain when he misses that glorious opportunity. This is the passion of soccer. Players truly get lost in the heat of the game, and it happens because they care so much. So much importance can ride on every touch of the ball and in its finest moment, soccer shows everyone what hard work and discipline can lead to.
3. Soccer teaches respect – Watch a man slide tackle an opponent to the floor and get a yellow card for dangerous play. But then watch that player lend a hand out to help him up. When a player goes down injured, opponents usually kick the ball out of bounds so the medical staff can assist them. Players always shake hands before and after the match because they respect one another. Common respect is something your child should understand from a young age, and soccer is a great way to show your child just that. And, in the occasional moment where a player refuses to offer another respect, the commentators usually criticize them so young listeners will learn what’s right and wrong.
4. Soccer is a cultural experience – All the clubs are made up of multicultural members. The English club, Arsenal, is often criticized for not having enough Englishmen on the field because the team has so many French, Spanish, and even Cameroonian players. In most parts of the world, the sport is referred to as football (since it is played with the feet), and everyone comes together to share in the sport that transcends any national border. Go watch the World Cup and you’ll see people of every color and shape all united in their love for that single sport. Do you want to learn a new language? Go turn on a game from a foreign country and listen to the commentators speak in that country’s tongue. So much of the world can be seen in the game’s global sport.
5. Watching the sport teaches the sport – Have you ever heard the saying, “you don’t have to teach a kid to turn a double play, they’ve seen it happen a million times.”? The same thing applies to soccer. If your child plays the game, what better way to improve than to learn from the best? You can watch how they move off the ball, how they keep their heads up to make passes, and how they dazzle our eyes with their feet.
So with that said, next time you pass by a soccer match on TV and skip on by, think about how much you and your child could learn if you just gave the beautiful game a chance.
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]]>Chad Killebrew from the-dispatch.com pens a magnificent reflection about his son and a soccer coach who played an influential role in his son’s life. The story is below, but sometimes, as volunteer soccer coaches, we remain in anonymous and thankless roles. We’re the ones who “make the sport go” and yet […]
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]]>This story is a great reminder of the impact we have as soccer coach – on players and young people. We may not have opportunities to realize this impact in person – but rest assured that you made an impact. It is simple moments of appreciation – those players who see you years later and pass the “cross the street test” – who you know you reached and impacted as a player…and a person.
Enjoy the article – it’s a good one!
Does anyone have stories of players and families who showed gratitude for the efforts you made and the vital role you played?
Here’s the original story:
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My younger son was feverishly working on writing a paper when I arrived home from work one day this week. I inquired about the assignment.
The teacher asked the class to write about someone who played an influential role in their lives, he replied. I immediately thought “I bet he’s writing about me.” I prepared to give him a big hug and shed tears of joy.
“I’m writing about Joe,” he said, a reference to a soccer coach from two years ago.
After I overcame the blow to my ego, I quickly appreciated how my son would pick Joe as the subject of his paper. My son’s now in his third year of playing club soccer in Winston-Salem, and he’s had four different coaches. My older son, by contrast, has only had two coaches in his five years with the club, including the same one for the past four years.
While all the coaches have been very competent, Joe certainly made the biggest impact on my son. He still often quotes things Joe told the team. He uses skills he learned from Joe during games.
I thought my son did an outstanding job on the paper. He recalled many details about Joe, both his appearance, mannerisms and stories he told. Joe only coached the team for a little less than one year before moving to Charlotte to attend law school. I scanned the paper and emailed a copy to him, as it’s the type of tribute that means a lot to people.
Coaches play such an important role in the life of young people. Some, like those in high school or club soccer, are paid for their efforts. But many others volunteer out of a love for a sport and a willingness to pass on knowledge to impressionable youngsters. My sons have been fortunate that most of the coaches they’ve had showed competence in their efforts.
Youth coaches often determine whether a youngster will stick with a sport. If a coach makes practice fun and teaches skills that a child sees helping them to improve, then the chances are great the youngster will remain in the sport and perhaps move to more advanced levels. But a poor coach at a young age can cause a child to give up a sport, one in which he or she might have excelled in the proper environment.
Good coaches come in many different forms. Some are strict and put up with no foolishness. Others goof off with the team and emphasize fun. Some are loud, others quiet. The best ones strike the proper balance between teaching, fun and winning. That often is very difficult, too, especially keeping winning in its proper context.
I coached both my sons in basketball and soccer when they were younger. I enjoyed my time coaching, and I especially liked practices, where a coach’s primary role is teaching. Games were more challenging, as my competitive instincts sometimes got the better of me. Certainly I recall specific situations that I would handle differently, and I was definitely too hard on my own children at times.
The coaches who especially deserve praise are those who continue to coach even when they no longer have children playing. They receive no money for doing this, but they simply love the sport and want to share that with children. Perhaps some day once my children are in college I’ll return to the sidelines (although my days of demonstrating certain skills might be passed by then).
Words similar to the way my son ended his paper could be printed on appreciation plaques that outstanding coaches receive at the end of a season from grateful parents and players:
“Joe was the greatest coach I’ve ever had, and it’s hard to express in a paper how much he impacted me at the age of 11, as a soccer player and, more importantly, as a person.”
Source: http://www.the-dispatch.com/article/20120114/COLUMNISTS/301149994/1018/news?p=1&tc=pg
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]]>Each year since August 1998, Beloit College in Wisconsin releases “The Mindset List.” While specifically aimed at Professors to re-set their mind for the incoming college freshman, the list includes events that were part of the class’ life – and references that aren’t part of their mindset. The goal is […]
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]]>Each year since August 1998, Beloit College in Wisconsin releases “The Mindset List.” While specifically aimed at Professors to re-set their mind for the incoming college freshman, the list includes events that were part of the class’ life – and references that aren’t part of their mindset. The goal is to help Professors create relevant and timely references for their students, which they would clearly understand.
This incoming class was born in 1993; the year I graduated high school. I think my favorite was “Ferris and Sloane could be their parents.” In short, the list is iconic to me – and certainly, something I will take onto the fields with me. I think this is an annual reminder that we have to see the game through our player’s eyes. Here’s the list:
The Mindset List for the Class of 2015
Andre the Giant, River Phoenix, Frank Zappa, Arthur Ashe and the Commodore 64 have always been dead.
Their classmates could include Taylor Momsen, Angus Jones, Howard Stern’s daughter Ashley, and the Dilley Sextuplets.
Copyright© 2011 Beloit College
Mindset List is a registered trademark
Original list: http://www.beloit.edu/mindset/2015/
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]]>Only twenty-one, I stepped on the field for the first time as coach of the Red Hot Chili Peppers. I didn't realize I was embarking upon "Parent Boot Camp." Over that time, I used to say, "Mental note to self...If I'm ever a parent..." about the lessons I've learned. And, now, all of those lessons come to full force as I prepare to be a first-time dad! Here's what I've learned!
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]]>At only twenty-one years old, I stepped on the field for the first time as coach of the U12 Red Hot Chili Peppers. In that moment, I didn’t realize I was embarking upon “Parent Boot Camp.” For over a decade, I’ve continued to coach (even though I don’t have any kids) because I believe in giving back to the community. Other people did it for me and I understand and believe in the transformational power of coaching.
I made some really dumb mistakes coaching soccer, but I’ve also learned some incredibly valuable lessons. As I navigated the coaching waters, I intently watched the interactions of parents and players. In time, I found myself thinking, “Mental note to self: If I become a parent…” It became my own little handbook of parenting lessons – just in case I ever would be blessed with a wife and a child. Until now, these lessons were simple, lifeless “mental notes to self…”
I’m thrilled to share that I’m going to have the first striker (or sax player or chess player or actor) on my very own family team. My wife, Rachel and I are expecting our first child in February. With a gaggle of nieces and nephews and an arsenal of life lessons from coaching soccer, I thought I might take a few moments share the “Notes to Self” I took about being a parent one day. These are more “ideals” than lessons, but I think it’s incredibly important to start with a framework. I know it’s woefully incomplete – and would love your single, most important tip on being a parent by commenting below.
I hope I’m able to actually live up to these lessons I’ve learned:
To all the parents and administrators at the Haddonfield Soccer Club, I thank you for the opportunity to learn with your kids, so I could be be more prepared for mine. (And, I know that nothing can prepare you for being a parent.) I hope I did your kids justice and taught them the “important” life lessons along the way.
I know I don’t have it all – and definitely don’t know it all. What’s the most important lesson you can share with me about being a first-time parent?
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]]>Sometimes things go wrong during a soccer season. As soccer coaches, we must recognize these team issues and correct them right away. Here's a quick list to help you figure out if you're on the right track or not!
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]]>Last week, we posted some early warning signs of your soccer team’s success. Well, we received some comments about the opposite end of the spectrum: As a coach, how do you know when your soccer team is off track? This is especially true for newer coaches who may not recognize certain actions or reactions from themselves, players or parents. The key here is to take action to correct these issues and get your team back on track.
Here are the tell tale signs that your soccer team has lost its way:
Do you have any other tell tale signs that something is wrong with your soccer team?
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]]>Don Lucia, a college hockey coach from Minnesota, provides amazing insight into coaching youth players. This is a keynote speech he gave for the Minnesota State Hockey Association. If you are looking to make an impact as a soccer coach, we highly recommend watching this video. As a soccer coach, […]
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]]>The 3 key points:
This awesome video is worth the 9 minute investment. It will make you think.
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]]>After 25 years and some 4,600+ shows, the Oprah Winfrey Show ended last week. Oprah became a cultural icon that with one fell swoop could make you laugh, cry and think; she inspired all of us to become better people and elevate us to higher callings. As I listened to Oprah’s last performance, I was struck by the lessons she was sharing. These are universal truths for life…and, of course, for coaching soccer. Duh!
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]]>After 25 years and some 4,600+ shows, the Oprah Winfrey Show ended last week. Oprah became a cultural icon that with one fell swoop could make you laugh, cry and think; she inspired all of us to become better people and elevate us to higher callings.
Just as my family taped the final episode of MASH, I recorded the final episode of Oprah. As I sat and listened to her, she referred to her show as one big classroom; I share that vision and it’s why I called this site, Soccer Classroom. We all learn from one another and we all teach one another. It gives credence to the “Learning Head Fake” that Randy Pausch so famously and aptly made us think about in his Last Lecture.
As I listened to Oprah’s last performance, I was struck by the lessons she was sharing. These are universal truths for life…and, of course, for coaching soccer. Duh! I thought I would interpret the lessons Oprah imparted with the world and apply them to soccer. After all, as coaches, we are the “Head Fake” to propel our players to greater things in life. Thanks, Oprah, for the amazing lessons learned and the inspiring lessons taught.
1. Show Up
In a show of Cal Ripken-like triumph, Oprah did not miss a day in 25 years. And, Cal gets all the credit for being an Iron Man. He’s got nothing on Oprah. And, the reason we must show up: Our players are counting on us. I know there are days “I just don’t have it”, but once I get there, I find the energy from my players to conduct a great session. We are a team and we elevate each other because there is no way we can always be at our best. This is one of the best aspects of team – show up, be held accountable and have a great session you were originally dreading. You’ll be surprised at the results of simply showing up, day after day.
2. Everyone Has a Calling
As coaches, we have to find the calling of every player. So many coaches simply want to coach “the team” without regard to individual player needs. While coaching only the team is way easier than treating each player as an individual and finding out what makes them tick, you are shortchanging the opportunity. Finding each player’s calling results in dynamic interactions and higher levels of relationships and results. We must help players find their calling. And, once we do, we must support those efforts in helping them to carry it forward.
3. The Platform is a Privilege
The platform to show up each soccer event and the opportunity to teach is a privilege. You are allowed into a player’s life to make a difference. Your power comes from the platform, but you have to be authentic to maintain that power. And, you have to decide how you will use that power. Your actions in life speak for you. It is certain that you receive in direct proportion to what you give – so give it everything you have. And, you hold in your hands the opportunity to change lives. It’s all because you have the platform…and it’s a privilege.
4. Learn by Watching Others
As coaches, we don’t have to have all the answers to life’s questions – on or off the field. We learn by watching others. Learn from mentors in life. As my brother once shared with me, “Learn from my mistakes. I made them for you.”
In my pre-season meeting, I always implore my parents to understand their actions from the sidelines make a difference. I ask them, “Consider your action and ask, what are you teaching your players?” In order to create the best opportunities possible, we have to learn from each other by watching and sharing with one another. How are you getting better? Who are you watching?
5. You Alone are Responsible
Life’s moment of liberation comes when you accept responsibility to live your life as your own. We, and we alone, are responsible for our actions and success. The importance of your energy when you take the field is unmistakable on your players: body language, tone and preparedness all count. Are you taking the responsibility seriously to create the best opportunities possible for your team? Are you making sure that your players aren’t making excuses, but rather accepting the responsibility to work hard to excel? You must instill the mindset from a sheepish “Sorry” to the positive replacement of “Next time!” The empowering mindset precedes success.
6. Newton’s Third Law
This is an immutable law in physics: every action has an equal and opposite reaction. If you are angry, you can be certain your players will be angry. If you are positive and prepared, your players will embrace and return that energy back to you in full force. Live your life and your actions by the Golden Rule. Before you step onto the field, leave all your worries and concerns on the sidelines. Tip: Take 20 seconds before you leave your car to mentally prepare a buzz saw of wonderful energy for your team. Your players are noticing.
7. You are Not Alone
The shared experience of a team enhances our journey and builds us together to higher levels. It is imperative that we pay attention to team dynamics. Get it right and the camaraderie and confidence builds; get it wrong and it is a downward spiral into individuality and dissention. In true Maslow style, the highest levels of state go from: dependent (as a child) to independent (as an adolescent and young adult) to hopefully achieving interdependence. We all count upon one another and need one another – especially as a successful team. There is no such thing as a self-made man and there certainly is no self-made coach.
8. Disaster Rises from Unworthiness
Validation is a fundamental human need – to feel worthy in the world. The common thread of human disaster comes from the feeling of being unworthy. Though soccer, we have the platform to teach those life lessons and instill the gift of confidence in our players. As Oprah pointed out, everyone and every player wants to know they are seen, heard and matter.
How are you making sure your players are seen, heard and matter?
9. Success Rises from Shared Visions
In order to have a shared vision, you must first understand your own coaching philosophy. Do you have one? We certainly can’t know where we’re going if we don’t have a plan to share. After all, the time you need a map is before you enter the forest. Now, once you have that vision, we need to live it: your actions are a reflection of your life and the fuel to inspiring and achieving those shared visions. Shared visions come by embodying the values necessary to overcome the obstacles that will certainly be placed in front of you. And, in the process, be kind and generous and gracious to give credit to those players, coaches and administrators around you.
10. Know there is Something Greater than You
I have a favorite saying. It goes, “I am not the center of the Universe; I am a small spec of it.” For me, it’s a mental state that reminds me that the world does not revolve around me and my little sphere. Soccer and my world are simply a part of the universe and it forces me to connect the dots for my players. Unfortunately, and we’ve all run into the jerks on the opposing touchline, there are some coaches who believe they are the God’s of their own sphere. They’re willing to bend and break the rules to achieve some end result and forget their place as part of the greater whole. This is why I really like coaching lesson 6; this always comes back to bite you.
11. Create a Safe Harbor
As coaches, we never fully understand each family and life situation and the mental state our players arrive in to the field. Creating a Safe Harbor through sports can be one of the greatest head fakes the platform can provide to us. I personally grew up in a broken home and I found solace in sports and a wonderful community. My awesome coaches provided me the opportunity to flourish and allow the difficulties of the day disappear. By creating safe harbors and mindful that there is something greater we’re trying to achieve, while still holding player accountable, we can understand that a rising tide lifts all boats.
12. The Final Test: Displaying Gratitude for the Work
Gratitude and humility elevates all people. We all must share the yellow brick road of blessings and use the experience of the work for good. I have always believed in the “cross the street test.” To me, it’s the final test as a coach. When you see your players downtown, they can do one of two things. They can cross the street to come greet you; or they can cross the street to get out of the way. No matter which it is, we know if we’ve reached that player. Nonetheless, we have to have display gratitude to have done the work and used the platform for the best of its highest purpose. In fact, you never cease being a coach, a coach in the game of life.
I will personally miss Oprah Winfrey and the daily lessons she taught all of us. She is an amazing woman whose life’s work embodied her value system, inspired confidence and elevated souls. I hope I can do that same as a soccer coach.
What do you think are the best lessons from Oprah?
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]]>Randy Pausch is the guy behind The Last Lecture. If you aren’t familiar with the story,Professors in college are to give seminal “last lectures” when they retire. Unfortunately for Randy, his last lecture came as a result of losing his battle with cancer. Randy became one of those lifetime coaches […]
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]]>Randy Pausch is the guy behind The Last Lecture. If you aren’t familiar with the story,Professors in college are to give seminal “last lectures” when they retire. Unfortunately for Randy, his last lecture came as a result of losing his battle with cancer.
Randy became one of those lifetime coaches who taught such important life lessons. His last lecture became an internet phenomenon and also went on to become a best-selling book. It truly is inspirational. I’m a bit of a crier (turn the Hallmark station on and the facet starts running) and this one sent me over the edge. As a coach, we’re “enablers of helping others achieve their dreams.” We can’t forget that.
Below is the video of Randy’s Last Lecture – it’s long, but it will move you. It will make you think. It has changed people’s lives (just read the YouTube comments). I want you to pay close attention at minute 8:15 where he speaks about his childhood experiences with football. In this clip, he introduces the concept of “head fake learning.” Head Fake Learning is where we use one activity to teach another. For instance, we use sports to teach teamwork. And hustle. And determination. The concept is spot on. Personally, as a soccer coach, I’ve always held that soccer is a microcosm of life. All the things you learn on a soccer field to be successful are directly applicable to your success in the classroom, as a friend and as a working adult. And, at the end of the video at 1:14:00, he tells you what the talk was about…something we all could use a reminder. Great video!
What are the important lessons you’re teaching your team using “head fake learning?”
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